After the science test last Friday, I've realized that many parents honestly do not know what is best for their children. My friends who got not-so-good test marks were crying because they knew their parents would yell at them for doing poorly. One of them said that their parents call them stupid and tell them "How they could have been born in this house." My mom and I were astonished by the pressure that some parents put onto their children.
When parents put pressure on their children, they're actually making them do worse. During the test, they'll be thinking, "Okay, I can't miss this question or my parents are going to kill me." Honestly, if your child is not a genius, then don't try to force them to become one. Just allow them to be who they are and just let that be enough to satisfy you. I'm probably the worst at science and math amongst my friends, but my parents always encourage me to try to do better. They don't try to make me out to be something that I'm not and they are satisfied with whatever happens when I try my best.
Parents should encourage their children, not criticize them until they cry. The way to make your children produce the best results they can is to just support them and tell them that you know they're trying had. Well, unless the child isn't trying to do his best, then of course, you should tell them to try harder, but you shouldn't do it in a way that would suggest you're angry. In my opinion, parents should never use an angry tone with their children -- I know, I have a pretty liberal view on parenting, but my parents never really use an angry tone with me, and I've come out alright... right? That was a rhetorical question... which means you're not supposed to answer it. ;)
Some people believe that a good, disciplined child comes from beatings and punishments, but what does that truly accomplish? All it does is cause the child to become scared of their parents. It will cause them to be stressed and they won't do as well on tests as other children. A belt to the behind is not the way to get your children to listen to you.
So, unlike some of my friends, I go into a test and I'm calm. I don't try to get all of them right, because I know I'm not going to. Instead of stressing over every single question, I try to have fun during a test and I also try to learn as I take the test.
What do you think is the best way of parenting? What kind of parenting style do your parents use?
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