How to deal with anger
I'm an angry person. I get angry, I have fits, I throw things around. The main way I deal with my anger is just to try and calm down. I close my eyes, and take deep breaths. It usually works... most of the time, unless the person (or object) keeps irritating me. I usually have to leave the room if I'm incredibly angry, since when I'm angry, I usually say things I don't mean to innocent bystanders. Another thing that makes me feel better is reading and writing. When I'm angry, I usually calm down by reading a book, or writing a blog. Reading lets me escape from the place that I'm in, and lets me enter a world of endless possibilities. When you're angry, I suggest that you read a book that's complex, so you focus more on understanding the book, than being angry; it usually helps for me! Writing lets me express my emotions; this helps because then, you won't have everything bottled up inside. Whether it be writing in a journal, or writing in a blog, writing is always a good way to help your anger. Talking to someone also makes me feel better. Find a person whom you feel close to, and tell them what you're feeling inside. For me, it's usually my mom, or one of my close friends. If you're in the position where someone is telling you how they feel, just smile and nod. Try to be comforting and not to be judgmental. Taking out your anger on your friends is not a good method of releasing pent up emotions. It's only going to send you into a social pariah and make you have less friends in the end. I've lost a few friends over the years because I was stupid and took my anger out on them -- and I regret that now. Don't be like me! So, how do you deal with your anger?This entry was posted on January 02, 2008 at 12:00 AM and is filed under Thoughts,.
By Robert · on January 02, 2008
I kick the crap out of someone who really deserves it. *nods*
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I deal with it by drawing or listening to music. Then I calm down. Or else I start fighting with the one who caused it in the first place :roll:
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I don’t. I have absolutely outstanding methods for avoiding things. Truth is, if anything angers me or upsets me, I throw myself into my work. It’s a great outlet for things and doesn’t require me screaming at poor innocent people. :P
(Or I begin writing a short story wherein most people die because of my horrid methods. Really effective.)
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My most common method is blogging. Sometimes it’s really hard when you’re computer is being used by family to watch television when they can do it elsewhere, but it’s what I tend to do. Also, ranting on a message board is also something that I do often when I don’t feel like wasting a whole blog post over something small. I try to only blog about the big things.
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I don’t DEAL with my anger, per se. Either I just bottle it up, consequently blowing up the next time I get angry…or I just tamely lecture the person I’m angry with until my breath runs out. It’s pretty funny to watch according to my friends.
Haha, now I’m left wondering which blog entries you wrote to handle your anger.
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If I get mad or angry at someone or something, I pause and look at things from other perspectives. For example, if I am angry at my brother for waking me up in the early morning, before I get angry, I think of how excited he is. How happy he must be. Anger subsides.
It’s a really good technique since it works almost always. :cool:
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Usually, I’ll go and play video games, break something, or beat the crap out of someone. But only if that someone was the cause of the trouble.
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I found myself to be inexplicably angry this morning, and when I’m angry, I tend to alienate people. Which sucks. Because I may have hurt the feelings of a few of my friends today. To calm down, I like to watch films or listen to music. It works, generally, and I also found that listening to my iPod on low when I have migraines, also makes them go away. So, it must be like a form of meditation, or something.
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I like this post. Probably because I need proper anger management, too. I actually admire people who can keep their cool for a long time.
Trying to control my temper is one of my resolutions this year.
I think the best one (for me) is to talk to the closest person about my frustrations.
P.S. I like this layout. Love the colors and header! Cork board!
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I did a series of podcats with how I dealt with anger, you may want to give them a listen and try some different ways to deal with anger. The first one in the series is on this page.
http://www.aquietmind.com/category/podcasts/page/12/
yours in service
robert
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